People can become irrational once emotions are involved and may say or do something that they will eventually regret. Be sure to try and stay strong especially if you have children because they need someone to look up to when they are confused and scared about the situation.

A close friend or a family member can act as a support person but you have to be 100% sure that this is not your partner’s lover. Once you’re sure, you can then speak out your suspicions and try to be open to you support person’s point of view.

You must also ask this support person if he/she is willing to accommodate you if ever what you’re suspecting is true. This way, you won’t be alone during this crisis in your life.

If there’s no one who can act as your support person, there are always support groups in the community. Search for shelters and hotels are available where you can stay and pass time in case your partner won’t leave. But be aware that in the end, it is the cheating wife that should leave.

However, if you think that your wife can change and if you’re willing to give your relationship a second chance, be sure to state your expectations and whatever it is that needs to change. Make your statements clear and have therapists ready to back-up the both of you during this patch-up to avoid giving up on working out the relationship.

If you have decided to patch things up, just make sure your wife is also willing to do it because if he doesn’t, the situation will end up causing you much more pain.

Be clear about what you are going to say and be aware of what emotions you want him to know. Let her realize that she has to take responsibility of her actions. Don’t go about jumping, slapping and screaming as this will make your partner think that you are unstable. If your spouse sees that you are strong and able to control your emotions, they will realize that they have made a grave offense and will think that you can stand on your own even without them.