When Can You Say It’s Cheating?

Each individual has a different perception about what cheating is. So how do you know if cheating is cheating or if it’s merely temptation in a different form?

Women see kissing and sex more of an emotional rather than a physical experience. Men think the opposite. If these aspects differ from each gender, then cheating may mean different for each gender too.

Basically speaking, exchange of body fluids with another person who isn’t your spouse can immediately be considered as cheating. Kissing is somewhat forgivable, but it is usually what leads to sex. So can kisses be concluded as cheating?

If the event didn’t go any further than a kiss, is it because they knew what they were doing was wrong or because they felt guilty that they were already cheating their partner? In this case, a guilty kiss can conclude that the cheater doesn’t want to cheat on his lover.

Kisses can be influenced by different factors but the most common kind of cheating kiss is the drunken kiss. Kisses influenced by alcohol can mean that the thought is clouded and judgment is unclear. Sometimes, cheating kisses happen because the cheater wants to get attention from the opposite sex and prove that he/she still has worth.

Sex on the other hand is unquestionably cheating. If someone tells you that he/she had ‘accidental sex’ with someone, then that person is an idiot. There is always time to think before doing the act. If the cheaters plan to meet up, then they would possibly talk about where to do it. This time will give them enough time to realize and think about what they are about to do. Unlike cheating kisses, alcohol influence is not an excuse to deciding to have sex with someone. No matter how drunk you are, you always know what you are about to do when it comes to sex.

Flirting on the other hand is just a means of stroking the ego. However, if the person is not contented with flirting, this may eventually lead to kissing and having sex with a person other than the main partner. Flirting is healthy in a relationship and I bet you have done this yourself from time to time too. But it shouldn’t lead to kissing or sex or else it will then be considered cheating.

How about porn and strip clubs? Can you say that it’s cheating when you see your partner watching porn movies and going to strip clubs? Do not jump to conclusions. Make sure you ask your partner the reasons behind this ‘hobby’ and why they enjoy doing so. If your partner likes porn and strip clubs, it does not instantly equate that he wants to sleep with the stripper.

If you are in this kind of situation, think of it as something to be thankful for – that your partner is not out there fulfilling his physical desires. Deal with the situation as calmly and rationally as you can. But be cautious too because looking at strippers is definitely different from getting a lap dance from one of them. It transcends to a more intimate level from visual to physical.